"The Awakening".

A time comes in your life when you finally get it...
When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks
and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out -


Enough fighting and crying or struggling to hold on.
And, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum,
your sobs begin to subside,
you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears
and through a mantle of wet lashes you begin to look at the world
through new eyes.
This is your


You realize that it's time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change
or for happiness, safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon.
You come to terms with the fact that he is not Prince Charming
and you are not Cinderella (or Visa versa)
and that in the real world there aren't always fairytale endings
(or beginnings for that matter)
and that any guarantee of
"happily ever after"
must begin with you
and in the process a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.
You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone
will always love,
appreciate or approve of who or what you are...
and that's OK.
(They are entitled to their own views and opinions.)
And you learn the importance of loving and championing yourself
and in the process a sense of new found confidence is born of self-approval.
You stop bitching and blaming other people
for the things they did to you (or didn't do for you)
and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected.
You learn that people don't always say what they mean or mean what they say
and that not everyone will always be there for you and that it's not always about you.
So, you learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself
and in the process a sense of safety & security is born of self-reliance.
You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are
and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties and in the process
a sense of peace & contentment is born of forgiveness.
You realize that much of the way you view yourself,
and the world around you,
is as a result of all the messages and opinions
that have been ingrained into your psyche.
And you begin to sift through all the crap you've been fed about
how you should behave,
how you should look and how much you should weigh,
what you should wear and where you should shop and what you should drive
how and where you should live and what you should do for a living
who you should sleep with who you should marry
and what you should expect of a marriage,
the importance of having and raising children or what you owe your parents.
You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view.
And you begin reassessing and redefining who you are
what you really stand for.
You learn the difference between wanting and needing
and you begin to discard the doctrines and values you've outgrown,
or should never have bought into to begin with
and in the process you learn to go with your instincts.
You learn that it is truly in giving that we receive.
And that there is power and glory in creating and contributing
and you stop maneuvering through life merely as a "consumer" looking for your next fix.
Your learn that principles such as honesty and integrity
are not the outdated ideals of a bygone era but the mortar
that holds together the foundation upon which you must build a life.
You learn that you don't know everything,
it's not your job to save the world
and that you can't teach a pig to sing.
You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility
and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO.
You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry
and that martyrs get burned at the stake.
Then you learn about love.
Romantic love and familial love.
How to love, how much to give in love,
when to stop giving and when to walk away.
You learn not to project your needs or your feelings onto a relationship.
You learn that you will not be, more beautiful, more intelligent,
more lovable or important because of the man on your arm
or the child that bears your name.
You learn to look at relationships as they really are
and not as you would have them be.
You stop trying to control people,
situations and outcomes.
You learn that just as people grow and change so it is with love....
And you learn that you don't have the right to demand love on your terms...
just to make you happy.
And, you learn that alone does not mean lonely...
And you look in the mirror and come to terms with the fact
that you will never be a size 5 or a perfect 10
and you stop trying to compete with the image inside your head
and agonizing over how you
"stack up."
You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside,
smoothing things over and ignoring your needs.
You learn that feelings of entitlement are perfectly O.K.'d
that it is your right to want things and to ask for the things that you want...
and that sometimes it is necessary to make demands.

Carlos Santa
Carlos Santana & His Hit "SuperNatural", With Rob Thomas, Playing in The BackGround.

You come to the realization that you deserve to be treated with
love, kindness, sensitivity and respect
and you won't settle for less.
And, you allow only the hands of a lover who cherishes you to glorify you
with his touch ...
and in the process you internalize the meaning of self-respect.
And you learn that your body really is your temple.
And you begin to care for it and treat it with respect.
You begin eating a balanced diet, drinking more water
and taking more time to exercise.
You learn that fatigue diminishes the spirit
and can create doubt and fear.
So you take more time to rest.
And, just as food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul.
So you take more time to laugh and to play.
You learn, that for the most part, in life
you get what you believe you deserve ...
and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for
and that wishing for something to happen is different
from working toward making it happen.
More importantly, you learn that
in order to achieve success you need direction,
discipline and perseverance.
You also learn that no one can do it all alone
and that it's OK to risk asking for help.
You learn that the only thing you must truly fear
is the great robber baron of all time-FEAR itself.
You learn to step right into and through your fears
because you know that whatever happens you can handle it
and to give in to fear is to give away the right to live life
on your terms.
And you learn to fight for your life
and not to squander it living under a cloud of impending doom.
You learn that life isn't always fair,
you don't always get what you think you deserve
and that sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people.
On these occasions you learn not to personalize things.
You learn that God isn't punishing you
or failing to answer your prayers.
It's just life happening.
And you learn to deal with evil
in its most primal state-the ego.
You learn that negative feelings such as anger,
envy and resentment must be understood and redirected
or they will suffocate the life out of you
and poison the universe that surrounds you.
You learn to admit when you are wrong
and to building bridges instead of walls.
You learn to be thankful and to take comfort
in many of the simple things we take for granted,
things that millions of people upon the earth can only dream about;
a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, a long hot shower.
Slowly, you begin to take responsibility for yourself by yourself
and you make yourself a promise to never betray yourself
and to never ever to settle for less than your heart's desire.
And you hang a wind chime outside your window
so you can listen to the wind.
And you make it a point to
keep smiling, to keep trusting,
and to stay open to every wonderful possibility.
Finally, with courage in your heart and with God by yourside
you take a stand,
you take a deep breath
and you begin to design the life you want to live
as best as you can.
And, then the journey begins.
Enjoy The Ride!

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